Most guys think it takes a lot of work to woo
a lady and many relationship sites do not help
matters by making guys believe it’s rocket
science. But this belief isn’t true and most
times you really don’t need the big things…it’s
simply the little things you do for her that
matters.
Relationship site, YourTango asked several
women what a guy can do to make them date
him and their responses were quite surprising.
Amanda Chatel of YourTango lists those six
simple but really important steps to win over
that girl you like.
1 Care. A lot. And Show It: If you want to win
a woman over, especially if it’s early in the
game, you need to show that you care, deeply,
about her health and welfare. “Before my
husband and I started dating, when we were
just, well, sleeping together, I somehow ended
up telling him that I had to go to the doctor to
have a biopsy done on my cervix because they
were concerned I had terrible lady-cancer. He
got off the night shift, stayed up until I had to
go to the hospital, and then drove me to his
place where he set me up on his couch with
his pajamas, his bathrobe, a bowl of my
favorite cereal, and Lord of the Rings extended
editions. Then he went to work, and brought
me ice cream when he came home. He stayed
awake for 36 hours to make sure I was okay
and had everything I needed, and completely
pampered me while I recovered. Before we
were dating,” says Colleen, 29. “When I was
out once with a guy I was seeing named Mike,
a random man was bothering my friend
Lindsey. Mike stepped in and said “Excuse me
sir, she doesn’t want you touching her or
bothering her so please leave her alone.” I
thought it was cute that he stood up for not
me, but my friend. Also this guy was a lot
bigger than Mike — and very drunk,” says MS,
26. “We were dating, I fell off a set of stairs
and broke my leg. We weren’t anything official
yet he took time off work to come and take
care of me. What guy does that? He won me
over, realized he was a keeper,” says Ruthie,
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2 Don’t Be Afraid To Be Quirky: Women like
men who don’t exactly conform to the
masses. Being cool is great, but if there isn’t
some strangeness in there, then it’s kinda
“meh.” It’s important to let your quirk shine.
“Last Christmas, my boyfriend’s gift to me
consisted of multiple components, one of them
was a harmonica. I was thinking (and actually
said out loud), ‘…the f*ck’” to which he
responded, ‘Get it? A harmonica for Monika!’ It
was pretty endearing,” says Monika, 26. “The
guy I was casually seeing, who lived out of
town at the time, flew in as a surprise and had
someone deliver a hilarious ransom note to me
while I was at work. The ransom note was
from my beloved stuffed animal frog, Lawn. I
spent my whole shift hoping it was he who
had done this. It was, and he won my heart
with that… then broke it very similarly years
later,” says Dana, 33.
3 Pretend To Be Someone Else: While being
yourself is always recommended, it’s OK to
stray from that if it means getting someone’s
attention. “I got asked out while riding a
bicycle once which was super awesome. He
had to get my attention by pretending to be a
bike cop wanting to give me a ticket for not
wearing a helmet, which, for Berkeley at that
time, was not uncommon. I thought it was so
clever so I went on a date with him,” says
Cortney, 30-something.
4 Sacrifice Your “Manliness”: I think we can all
agree that any man who can show his
sensitive side is the kinda guy a lot of women
will go crazy for. So, why not really push the
limits? “I had to practice some make-up
techniques, and he let me use his face as a
canvas. At that point, I was like ‘yeah, I’m
totally into this guy for playing along,’” says
Amber, 25.
5 Fake The Same Interests: Sometimes you’ll
find yourself sitting across from someone
whose interests vary from yours. There’s
nothing wrong with pretending you’re
interested in something … even if you have no
clue what it is. “On our first date, Scot asked
me what kind of music I liked. I told him I was
into indie music, as in the independent music
scene. He said he was too, although he
couldn’t name a favorite band because he
‘loved them all.’ Several months later he
admitted that he had no idea what indie music
was and assumed it was from India. It was
adorable. To this day, he still says he listens
to indie music, although he knows what it is
now and actually doesn’t,” says Jennifer, 34.
6 Play Hard To Get: It’s true that sometimes
we really do want what we can’t have, (but
hey, so do you) and it’s only when we don’t
have something or lose it, that we realize we
need it. “It’s like every story you’ve ever heard:
he wanted me, I wasn’t interested so he
moved on, so of course I wanted him after
that. Turned out his new girlfriend was made-
up and just a technique to serve the exact
purpose it did. We’ve been together for almost
five years,” says Elizabeth, 28. “After a long,
flirtatious conversation, a guy I liked left the
party without asking for my number. It made
him seem mysterious and desirable. The next
time I saw him out I was determined to talk to
him again. We ended up dating soon after
that,” says Stephanie, 26. As you can see,
there really is no strict formula to getting a
girlfriend. It just takes being yourself, but not
being yourself, a couple of white lies, some
caring and the occasional ransom note.
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